Do you ever wonder if people like you? Sometimes people start treating you differently and you start to think, am I doing something wrong? Getting people to like you isn’t always at the top of our to-do list, but in order to keep and find new friendships, we need to take a look at ourselves.
You might say, “Well if I were as beautiful as this woman everyone would like me!”
What makes a person beautiful anyway?
Not necessarily true! There will always be those who adore beautiful people, but then there are also those who drown in jealousy over an attractive person. What makes someone truly beautiful anyway? Did you ever hear someone say they fell in love with their significant other because they were attracted to their personality? I’ve heard it a lot, and if we take a deeper look into what makes people gravitate toward others, it seems that personality does, in fact, have something to do with it.
Please remember, regarding the list below, no matter who you are right now, you are a beautiful person, worthy of love, and capable of changing your life in positive ways. Start small, one step at a time if you’re overwhelmed, and you will still get to a more beautiful life!
I’ve personally had to ask questions like, is it my imagination or are these people ignoring me? If you find yourself searching for this answer often then it might be time to have to take a look at how your behavior might be responsible for the way people respond to you.
10 Things You Can Do
- Have you ever been in an interesting conversation with someone and out of the blue someone that was eavesdropping nearby takes it upon themselves to step in and offer their opinion? Don’t be that person! Some people do that because they just want to be included in some conversation, but it tends to make the eyes roll, and whispers start when that person goes away. It’s a shame the eye rolling takes place at all but it’s how it is out there and if you’re expecting someone to understand that you just want to be included, and like you, because if that, most likely they won’t.
- Start your conversations with people by asking someone a question about themselves, you know, getting to know them. Remember what they say, take the time often to ask how they’re doing, or how their family is doing. Try to remember not to offer unsolicited advice!
- 101 Social Skills will tell you that to get people to like you never give your know it all answers, especially when nobody asked you a question. At most, if someone asks your opinion, keep it relating to your experience and leave the “you” word out as much as possible.
- People love to get a sincere compliment, but most people, like children, can spot a fake a mile away! We love a compliment when we feel the person honestly feels what they’re complimenting. People grow tired of a fake sweet voice also. It can sound babyish or even like your being “motherish. “
- Be yourself and try to be as natural as you can. An act that is fake will be apparent that someone is trying to be too perfect or thinks the attention should be on themselves. Also, people will more easily like you if you aren’t putting on a front.
- Hopefully, this article isn’t sounding too bossy to anyone reading it because you should know that I especially had to re-evaluate my behavior at my last office job. The truth is, many times, I think we just try to hard. Or we don’t try hard enough. Or we don’t have a clue, which was kind of where I fell into the bunch.
- I’m sure the “treat others as you would have them treat you” quote is the last thing you want to hear but that’s exactly why we sometimes miss the social clues out there. We talk and think about ourselves a little much, and we don’t realize it. It’s all about being mindful these days, so that means being mindful socially too!
- Be the person who shares her candy, garden produce, Christmas cookies, and other goodies. This act alone won’t get people to like you but thrown in with kindness and care it’s a sure win. Putting some candy on your desk and offering it to everyone gives you a chance to have conversations every time someone needs a sweet treat.
- Being thankful everytime someone does something for you helps too. But make it genuine! And jump on the opportunities to do something nice for someone if you get the idea. Don’t you just love when someone remembers something you said and takes it upon themselves to do something for you? Try to remember details about others that are important to them. It’s an extra plus in getting them to like you.
- I always said if you want a friend you have to be a friend. I think everyone can say it’s easier said than done, especially with all the juggling of responsibilities we have these days. Maybe it’s taking care of an aging parent, having to work overtime and taking time with our children that’s first on your list for good reasons. I found a few good friends are better than none. A quick text to my friends regularly or commenting on their posts on Facebook helps to keep me in contact with friends. Making a commitment to invite a friend or potential friend to go out to eat, shopping, hiking, or whatever you like to do once a month helps to keep the ball rolling.
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